This has been popping up everywhere of late, beautifully it means different things to different people. I wanted to share with you my take on self-care.
Self-care for me is checking in with myself and readjusting whatever I uncover so that I am living my life according to my values.
Your values are what drive, energise, and inspire you, rather than the social constructs of honesty, integrity, etc. They stem from your conscious and unconscious voids (i.e. what is most missing is most important), and they often change throughout your lifetime. They may include family, self-development, career or business, food, beauty, socialising, etc.
As tenderly as you would a friend, I ask myself how I am feeling, and what I need. When I’m not feeling great it is usually due to lack around my top values. If I’m finding for example that I’m lacking around my value of health and fitness then I make time for a walk and plan a nutritious meal, or if it’s beauty I’ll bring some flowers into the house and enjoy the process of tidying.
By linking my day and my tasks to my values I find I don’t really even need to carve out additional time because my life is in alignment.
When you know your values, you are tapping into what is deeply meaningful and significant for you. You are essentially tapping into your inner self or your soul. This is a powerful place from which to practice self-care. Because the activities you engage in end up stemming from a more profound, wiser, intentional foundation.
This is not to dismiss some basic physical and emotional tenets of health that you can embed in your life such as eating whole foods; finding small moments of stillness and quiet each day; moving, and; spending time in nature.
If you are starting your day with coffee and ending it with Netflix and scrolling on your phone you may be headed for burn out.
It's time to check in and start showing up for yourself.
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